Taken for granted

If I put a pound in how many times people took us for granted I would be rich by now.

The definition is that it fails to properly appreciate (someone or something) especially as a result of overfamiliarity.

Why am I writing about taken for granted?

Someone who has been treated like this or been on the opposite end fails to realise how short life really is. 

We’re so used to having our friends or families around us for so long that we forget that anything can happen to them.

In my experience, I’ve met people who were in my life for a short time or those who are going to be there permanently. If I had to put the most obvious point there is, is that these people won’t be there in your life forever but you keep treating them like they will be. 

It’s also a choice to decide who you want in your life. When I was a kid I badly wanted to be a part of this group and I kept forcing myself even though they clearly did not like me. But somehow I chose them to be my supposed “friends”.

Years later I’m here thinking why did I do that, but I was a child and wanted someone to appreciate me and accept me into a group.

Another example was relationships with my ex-boyfriends. I put some of them as a priority and rarely focused on my family or friends or even myself. I remember coming out of these relationships and my loved ones telling me that my whole personality had changed. All my own opinions had been lost and I had used my exes' opinions as my own. 

It’s not just about relationships but also work life. We can all relate, it’s the one where we work so hard and yet we don’t receive the thanks we get. I remember this affecting my mental health and every day I was questioning my existence.

Everything is a balance and everything we have we shouldn’t take for granted. All the main people in my life I know won’t always be there. 

This is what I know and that is appreciation comes a long way, it truly is the bare minimum we fail to give to the people in our life.